I miss you!; What to do when he/she is away

Ahhhhhhhh there comes a time when we are away from those we love be it because they are on a trip, or because they just left to go home. It is then when we feel something peculiar... we miss them. But is it ok? Is it natural? To what extent should we feel so?

Well, I ain't no expert on love, I am a very avid apprentice, but I am gonna share with you what I think is the answer to these questions based on the experience I've had and the experience others I've known have had. ... hehe 

That said, I believe that when we miss someone, it is something very natural and something good. It means we like the company of the person and we want to spend more time with them. If we are in love, we know that we want to spend every waking hour with him/her. But up to where is it healthy?

It is ok to miss your partner and want to spend more time with them, sometimes even you want to shrink 'em and put 'em in your pocket so you'd be every moment with them, but we can't forget that we have our own lives, and they have theirs. What I mean is, good company is always, well, good. But there always have to be a time for each other to be themselves and to take distance. When we are with someone so much time, we start turning into them, it's like two people start to fuse when they spend every moment together. Yes, there are exceptions, but the element of uniqueness should always be present because that's what our partners love about us and it's also one of the things that make relationships interesting. Also, sometimes our partners, or even us, can get  bored with each other, and we most definitely don't want that.

Sometimes, I confess, I get a little bit too clingy and I can make my partner feel a little bit suffocated. Of course, when I notice, or when he tells me, I take a little bit of distance and give him his personal space to do his own things. We tend to forget that relationships are a relation between two people. A relationship is not two people being one. So we have our own lives and then we have our lives together. It is a bit hard to explain for me but I hope you understand. 

So when he or she is away and you feel lonely or miss your partner, distract yourself. Do the things you like that they don't enjoy particularly or hang out with your friends! Because many times we forget we even have them.

Point is that, miss them, but don't let them be your life. Separate yourself from your relationship and be yourself, because then your partner will love you even more. Love is tricky, but that's why we are clever. ;)

Benefits of falling in love

At times we wonder, is it worth it? Is it worth it to fall in love?

Well, I don't pretend to tell you what is the correct answer, for it is something that varies person to person. My reasons differ from yours, and so on. But, I will do give you my opinion along with some fast research I did.

I believe it is worth it to fall in love. Why? For many reasons!

Being in love gives us many emotional, physical and psychological benefits. 

Being in love makes us feel better, great, happy, and just plain giddy. 

As my profile states, I am a psychology student and I have learned quite a few things. One of the things I learned which surprised me and made me understand better this love emotion, has to do with neurotransmitters. 

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that, when balanced or with a little too much flowing around in your head, makes you feel great. It's the one that deals with how happy or sad you are. It is actually very associated with depression, for when you have low levels of serotonin, you become depressed. But to the point, when we are in love, we generate this transmitter and we balance it's levels, perhaps we even produce more than necessary, and this is why when we are in love we are happier, merrier and plain just giddy.

On the same note, falling in love calms the body which allows it to stimulate nerve growth which pretty much restores your nervous system creating new brain cells making you smarter!

Also, given the nature of what falling in love is, we connect to others in a very deep emotional way that, believe it or not, has payed off in fighting ovarian cancer. You see, the University of Iowa has found in a recent study that patients with ovarian cancer that have a good relationship with others (like the relationships we're talking about here), have better chance to eliminate cancerous cells around tumors than those patients that lack this type of relationship.

Another benefit of falling in love is in relation to the heart. According to Dr. John Marsden PhD, when we talk with someone we find attractive, the brain gets excited and sends impulses to the heart which accelerate the pumping rhythm by three times improving the body's circulation, this being why we feel "butterflies" in our stomach.

And another reason, amongst many others that I will leave out, love makes us stay young. It does this because when we are in love, we release endorphins that help keep our skin soft, smooth and decrease wrinkles. 

So in conclusion, love brings  a lot of benefits. It also gives us someone to talk to and share a lot of experiences with which will last forever. Sure we could talk about the disadvantages of love, like broken hearts and frustration, but when we look at the benefits we can minimize these and think better about love. 

In the end, positive or negative, love brings us life experiences that will help us grow, mature and appreciate life for how it is. I believe that be it love, or new things, or whatever it is that life has in store for us, we shouldn't give it our back without at least trying it first. Because life is like the world, it goes round and round and it brings us many surprises that makes us happy, sad, mad, content, but it is, in the end, what makes us feel alive. 

Reference:

http://health.ninemsn.com.au/family/womenshealth/695370/the-health-benefits-of-love