Simple way of knowing if we are in love

 

I don't know if it has ever happened to you, but sometimes to me, a concept or an idea pops up at some point in the week, and it repeats itself until something ultimate happens. Well, this week's phenomena (hehe) was about love, but about being in love. 

How do we know when we are in love? This question was asked to me like a good five times, which is a lot considering no one ever asks me this. Even in movies the question was brought. So I started thinking about how do we know when we are in love.

I came up with an answer: You know you are in love with someone when you put that persons happiness and well being above yours. This pretty much sums up love for me. You see, when you love someone, you give of yourself and give up on things you want or prefer, but it's ok because when you see that person smile and be happy, something inside you turns on, a warmth and pretty much happiness. 

In this case we could determine if we are in love when the happiness of that other person is your happiness. If he/she is happy, then you are happy. And this can be applied to any type of love. This is a very simple way of knowing if you love someone. 

This is also why they say, "if you love someone you got to let them go". That other person's happiness is so important to you that if he/she is happy with someone else or without you, then you let that person be with or without she/he wants. 

Going a little bit personal here, this week me and my partner had a bump in the road and we had to stop there for a moment and have a reality check. Seemed like we were just going with the wind. Thing is that we asked ourselves if we loved each other. After thinking about it a whole night we came to the conclusion, (or at least I did!), that we do love each other. You ask me, how do I know I love my partner? Well, I know it because when I see him smile I feel happy, content. When I see something I know he will like, I get it for him, because I imagine my life with him and I feel alright and safe. That is how I know I love him. And in past experiences I have had different partners whom I've loved as well in a different level/way, because we are all different. And I've decided to end relationships because I considered that they're better off without me. 

With my past one, I felt that He could be and do much more if I weren't there, but I was happy to see him grow and mature with me, and I felt good cause I knew that I helped him grow as a person and an adult, and he helped me too. 

So to end this, it is hard to know if we truly love someone because of how different we all are. But I sure can say that part of being in love means the other person's happiness. If we don't care about what that other person desires, then it is not love. So if you ever have the doubt, ask yourself, are you willing to give or sacrifice of yourself for the happiness of that special person?