Evening, I hope you are having a nice day or night! Today I would like to talk a little bit about how you can tell if you are meant to be with your partner.
First of all, I would like to say that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Actually, there is such thing, but the word 'perfect' probably has a different meaning to most people, but about this I'll ponder upon later. Point is that a way to know if your relationship is good and durable, there is one tiny (super) detail.
One day I was talking to a cousin of mine and he said something that called my attention and, even years after, it still is in my mind. He said, "The girl that I won't miss when away, and that I don't get tired of being around with, is the girl I will marry." Or something along the lines...
The first thing that struck me of this statement was the fact that he said 'not missing when away'. I have thought about this through and through and I've finally come to understand this part of the statement. Of course you can miss your partner when away but you don't depend on your partner. It's like what I talked about in the other post, each of us are individuals, and even in relationships, no matter how intertwined we are with each other, we should always be ourselves and be able to cope with life's details. Of course we can do favors and lighten the burden of our loved ones ever so often, but here, a lot of us fail when we pamper our partners to the point that they just stop doing things themselves, or maybe we are the ones that are over-pampered. The problem is that when we are miles and miles apart from our loved ones we are incapable of doing many things.
Other than physically being codependent with our partners, we can be emotionally dependent of them. It is not healthy to become piles of excrement, in lack of a better expression, when we are alone. We need to understand that our partners will still love us no matter how far they are and that they will eventually come back. So mood up and pamper yourself this time, use this free time to get in tone with yourself and catch up with your spiritual side, maybe. Anyways...
The other part is the one that says 'never be tired of being around with'. This statement can't get more obvious, imo. But anyways, this means that we are willing to spend anytime necessary with our partners and do all sorts of things together, most importantly it means that we wont get bored with them. Now careful on this, if you are indeed bored with your partner, maybe it's not them, maybe it's the routine so be careful on how you go about this and think on what you could do to make it better. Also, not always we have to be doing something for entertainment, lounging is something both can do at the same time or just cuddling. Also, sometimes you might be bored with your partner and that is totally normal! The problem is when this boredom is there always to the point you just don't want to spend time with your loved one no more. If this happens, I suggest you think of a way to deal with this situation and if after a few tries nothing gets better then, sadly it wasn't meant to be.
Well this post is getting long, before I say goodnight, I'd like to say that this simple way of noticing how your relationship is with a person, is not a rule of being. We are all different and what is true to me, is not necessarily true to you. So again, be careful on how you go around things, especially with emotions because it hurts so much when we are being toyed with or when people are just so inconsiderate to our feelings. So wrapping this up, I promise I will do now :s, I say to you think, but not too much, live, but in balance and love without limits.
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